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Mama Blue Loves Cassie Sue

I trust you are all doing well. Covid is no longer rampant. Although it is still lingering in the shadows, it isn’t in the daily news and for the most part everyone is starting to breathe a sigh of relief. But this post is about celebrating wins, both big and small. You may not know, I have finished a children’s book: “Mama Blue Loves Cassie Sue” and it will be published this summer. This is exciting and I would love for everyone to join me in a huge celebration. I would be thrilled if you could take a minute to review the book, honestly on Amazon and Goodreads. Stay tuned here for an update very soon.

If you are interested in receiving updates, please send an email to apdgt@nanasapronstrings.com or just subscribe to the blog and you will be added to the notification list as we get closer to publishing. I will notify you when the book is available on Amazon, and other fun facts regarding future projects currently in the works! Also, when you can begin your reading and reviewing journey! This book is an early reader/picture book, so it should be a quick read for adults. If you have friends you think might be interested, please pass on the information. Let me know if you want more info as the launch date is available. I look forward to hearing from you soon.

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The Journey Begins

(a guest post by Valkyrie) you can follow the blog itsallinthejourney on WordPress.

By now I’m sure you’ve seen something going around the internet along the lines of: “At interviews five years ago none of us were correct on where we would be five years from now”. Which is absolutely true, I doubt any of us could have anticipated everything that has happened this year…and we’re only halfway through. For me, I could not have foreseen the biggest curve-ball 2020 threw at me: pregnancy. Honestly, when I found out and subsequently was able to wrap my head around the circumstances, I thought it was rather funny. Very “on brand” for me and my life: getting pregnant in the middle of what very well could be the apocalypse. Strangely though I feel calmer than I did at the start of the year. This pregnancy has brought me closer to my family, my partner’s family and helped me take better care of myself. It has been very eye-opening to hear tales of my mother and grandmother’s personal experiences with their pregnancies and how they navigated parenthood. I won’t go into too much detail, but I will list some of my favorite things I’ve heard.

  1. My mother was apparently such an active child that she would run laps around the house (this continued/transformed into a high school track and field career).
  2. My grandmother had two of the easiest pregnancies and deliveries I have heard of in my entire life (this one makes me both a little jealous and wary. I want an easy and quick delivery, but not so quick that I don’t get my epidural).
  3. My own birth was surrounded by chaos for my loved ones. I.e. back surgery [grandad] and graduating from the Marines [biological father].

How I found out was interesting as well. It started with my grandmother thinking I was pregnant because I had complained of some nausea. Instead of coming to me, she calls my mother with her concerns. Who then proceeds to also worry, buy not 1 but 3 pregnancy tests and show up at my house.  It has led to a running joke that my grandmother is a witch. Even if no one else thinks it is funny my grandma and I do so I count that as a win. I am now 5 months pregnant; my daughter is due around November 18th and I am both terrified and excited. I have no idea how the U.S. will be then in regard to the virus. I believe my partner will be able to be with me…I hope, but I am not sure. The way the government has currently been “handling” the situation does not make me very hopeful. I hope they change my mind. Even if I do get to have him there with me, I have been warned there is a good possibility of fainting. According to my partner, not only does he hate needles, but his father does as well. This led to his father passing out at the time my partner was born. Cue the slight sigh of stress. I can only imagine how I will be feeling going into labor, I truly do not want to even imagine my partner falling to the floor when I get the epidural…

It is strange how much peace an unplanned pregnancy has brought to my life. I have just moved into a new house with my partner, my grandparents are also getting ready to move here, and everything just generally feels like it’s falling into place. I have been extremely fortunate that this pandemic has not put too much of a wrench in my life. I do not get out much, and I don’t mind wearing a mask when I absolutely must go out. The main way I have been affected is dealing with the pregnancy itself. My doctor’s visits are a very stark reminder of how different the world we are currently living in is. I can’t bring people with me, so my partner is having to miss out on some of these classic “pregnancy moments”. He gets to see all the pictures and he’s been able to feel her kick a couple of times now (spoiler: we’re having a daughter) but it’s a wonderful experience to see your child in the womb and hear their heartbeat. I can honestly say it has not gotten old and I am now 5 months pregnant. I wish he could share these experiences with me, but I understand it is a necessary and relatively small sacrifice to make for my safety and others. A lot of “normal” pregnancy things are having to be foregone due to the pandemic and everything, sometimes I can feel guilty trying to be excited about it. I try not to post too much about it or talk about it because I feel bad. But that is honestly so minor compared to what the rest of the world has been going through, again, I feel fortunate. I get to be with the love of my life, focus on my health and optimistically plan for our future.

It is the biggest comfort to me in these times and I feel we could all benefit from our interpersonal connections. Whether it be with strangers through a screen to romantic partners, humans need companionship and compassion. We need each other if we are to survive. So, I guess to wrap this up, I would like to send out a big hug and lots of love and positivity out to all of you. You deserve it. We have survived another day, and we will survive another. You are stronger than you know.

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Great Grand Nana

My granddaughter is pregnant!  I am ecstatic about the baby and the special memories we will make.  But you know, a great grandmother?  Doesn’t that make me ancient?

Those were my thoughts as I traveled to be with my granddaughter.  I was on my way to help her pack and prepare for the move to a bigger home, I arrived after midnight, hours later than I my usual bedtime.

The next morning my internal clock missed the memo on sleep deprivation and four hours later my eyes popped opened. Time to get up! Although short on sleep reserves, the day was a lot of fun.

Nightfall, eager for sleep, we fell into bed exhausted.  However, as often happens, the universe had other ideas. At 2:00 AM, my granddaughter’s dog, Joy, started barking.  No amount of cajoling would entice her to sleep. By 3:30 AM frazzled, we relented and let her out into the dark to potty.  She took care of business and came back inside.

 However, around 7:30 AM, she started again, soon joined by her brother, Duke.  Blinking awake, I groggily went to let the dogs out before they woke my granddaughter.  While my motive was sincere, I did not remember that she had reset the alarm.  I soon realized my mistake as a voice came through the speaker on the security box, “Is everything all right?”

Overwhelmed, I responded as quickly as possible with ‘yes’. Then the lady in the box asked my name.  With the alarm blaring, dogs barking and her asking my name, I said, “I’m Jillian’s grandma.”

 Apparently, that was not the correct answer nor was: ‘let me get her’.  Staying calm, I woke my granddaughter.  (So much for letting her sleep in!) Trying to remember the pass code while talking over the barking, blasting alarm and security company I think they were wondering if I were sane.  About 15 minutes later I answered the door to 2 uniformed officers coming to check on us. In my nightgown and white socks (I was trying to get dressed), I assured them we were fine.

I doubt anyone I talked to or met this morning would have any trouble believing I am a great-grandmother. However, I intend to be a great Grand Nana!

Stepping Back

I wanted to let you all know how very much I appreciate you taking time from your busy schedules to join the launch team for the book Mama Blue loves Cassie Sue. I had so much fun writing the book, but I couldn’t have finished without you. The encouragement, prayers, and experiences we shared made this book possible. When I was sad you made me smile, when I was hungry you made sure I was fed. When I fell, you picked me up. The book was a children’s book but the ideals represent a life time of friendships and family experiences.

Stay tuned and check in as I transcribe the Blues and their next adventures. Although the Blue family isn’t based on actual events or people, occasionally facts may seem familiar. So thank you from the whole of my heart!!

So I will Step Back and quietly give thanks for all of you!

Deanna Thoma

Published – Mama Blue Loves Cassie Sue

The profound connection between Cassie Sue and her grandmother Mama Blue is tested when the physical distance between them makes it difficult to find comfort and smiles. The story demonstrates a delightful tale of family bonds, joy and inspiration.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CHL1C96N – link to book on Amazon

Pick up a copy of the eBook or paperback and leave a review! Check back here to follow new tales of Mama Blue and Cassie. Be the first to know when the Blue Family adventures continue in the next book.

Book Launch

As promised, I will drop a note each week to share the progress on the “launch” of my book about the Blue Family. The story is on paper and now the book is taking shape! Writing is a big part of creating a book, but not the end. The next phase is pulling it all together into a seamless book. Mama Blue Loves Cassie Sue is about a family of Blue Pandas and the relationship between grandparents and grandchildren. The book is a picture book/early reader. Illustrations are complete and the book is currently being formatted for publishing.

I Just want to be sure I have your info correct. You are helping me, so I need to know if you prefer receiving a text or email or Facebook message.

Thanks for being willing to be on my launch team. I have divided the launch into 3 groups. Group 1 is going to read the book, write a review, and share the book with others. Group 2 is going to read and write a review. On the day the book comes out, Group 3 will just buy a copy. Which group are you interested in committing to?

Depending on the group you prefer, I will update the info for the book link to review and any other relevant information. Please contact me if you have questions@ apdgt@nanasapronstrings.com.

The Christmas House

The Christmas House.  The house on the hill. Both those names evoke wonderful memories for me.

In the early 1970s, this wonderful house became a part of our family.  I wish I had pictures of that first version to share.  The visions in my head are bright and colorful, filled with happiness.  The reality is it was a farmhouse that my brother-in-law gutted and repaired while keeping the original personality of the house intact. 

My sister and her husband worked tirelessly on the house as the first owners of our family to be its custodians.  My niece and nephew were born while she lived in the home.  If they were adding to the story, their memories would spill onto the page.  It was a wonderful home to live and grow in.   And they grew into lovely, successful adults.       

Fast forward to the early 1980s.  With two children of my own, my then husband and I purchased the house from my sister.  We purchased much more than a remodeled house.  We became the proud owners of a magical house on the hill.  As a family, we thrived. 

Over the years we created memories too prolific to list.    My son penned his first lyrics, my daughter honed her love of all people and especially the underserved while I typed my first story on an old Compaq Computer from Radio Shack.   There were many parties, friends, and family.  

Eventually, I moved away from the house on the hill but never gave it up.  I lived in Lubbock, TX and then Austin, TX, but still the house stood resolutely on the hill, providing sanctuary for me during hard times.   Eventually it became the gathering place for our family through crisis, illness, and holidays. 

Thus, the house became the Christmas house.  The tree stayed up longer and longer each year.  The wreath graced the door of the empty house well into February.  The holiday decorations stayed on the shelves and the coffee cups were all Christmas themed.

It was not practical to keep a house empty for so many years, but every time we committed to sell it, something major seemed to come up.  When my mother was ill, it was a place for everyone to stay and gather.   

My children have moved away and created happy lives.  My first great grandchild was just born, and I have moved out of state.

It is time to say goodbye.  We have the house on the market.  With the holidays barreling toward us, I hope that all the magic and experiences we made in the house continue to make it a home for the next custodians.  

Okay, just a few memories to share:

Sliding Down the hill on cardboard boxes.

The fire truck bed my sister built.

The toy soldier mural.

Coffee on the back deck.

Cub Scout meetings.

Christmas mornings.

13 inches of snow.

Holiday meals with family and friends.

Family bonds.

Good friends.

Goodbye old friend…….

Pandemic House Hunting

Deciding to move to another state is not one I made easily.   I do not accept change well and moving hours away from a home we have lived in for years is exciting but also sad.  Saying goodbye to a beloved home and close friends is like leaving family.

Shopping for a house is challenging, but shopping for a house during a pandemic can seem Insurmountable.  So much of the process has become virtual.  The problem with virtual viewing is it is like using a dating app.  You eliminate and select based on photos that may not be entirely accurate, and it limits you to insight from the people who have the most to gain. 

The pictures only show the best features.  The angle of the picture hides the small and not so small flaws. Having made a list of “must haves”, we have developed a three-step process. 

Step 1:  Review the house online and make sure it has all the bells and whistles.

Step 2:  Yes–the boxes are all checked, and it gets added to the list.    No – we cross it off.  There is no swipe right to accept or left to discard.

Step 3.  When we come to town, we scout the neighborhoods as if stalking a person on social media and if it passes the stalking test, it goes on a new “tour” list.

Eventually the new list will become a list of homes we want to tour. (assuming they haven’t sold.) We are hesitant to tour occupied homes unless we love the house. It seems our lists are growing and changing daily. Four weeks into our search, we have not toured any homes in person. We are making progress, one house at a time! Stay tuned!

Transplanting a Yellow Rose of Texas

More years ago, than I care to share, I was born in Vernon TX.  And other than a short stint in my 20s; I have lived in and loved Texas.  But things change…. And now I am married to a man born in New York.

When I was an adolescent girl, my cousins and I had an ongoing but friendly feud about which was better, Texas or Oklahoma,  It was always in good humor, but I was and am a devoted Texan!  Go Rangers, Astros, Red Raiders, Texans, Cowboys and Hook em Horns.!   Not that I am a sports fan, but Texas is Texas, you know? 

But the maternal instinct has trumped the innate Texan deep in my heart.  We are moving to Oklahoma. My first great grandchild, my granddaughter and my daughter are in Oklahoma.   Now not only am I consorting with a New Yorker, who grew up overseas, I am moving into competitor territory.

You know they say keep your friends close and your enemies closer.  The question is, can a yellow rose of Texas thrive in Oklahoma?  I think with tender loving care, I will flourish and bloom!  After all the state flower of Oklahoma is the Oklahoma rose.